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9/27/13

Announcements - Sept. 22, 2013

Saturday, September 28th we are invited to the General Relief Society broadcast at the Interstake Center at 5:00. A light supper will be served after the broadcast.

Wednesday, October 9th , at 7:00 we will have our Relief Society evening activity held here at 7:00. We have a fun evening planned to get to know all the new sisters who have recently moved into our ward. For those of you who may need babysitting that evening, please check online.

There is an audition for the stake production of “Women at the Well” for those of you who like to act and/or sing. Young women are also welcome to audition. Handouts giving the details are available at Relief Society. The performance will be on March 15th.

Sister May from the Concord Employment Office came to encourage anyone who needs employment to come to their office for help. The office is open from 8-5 daily and from 8-8 on Wednesdays. It is located behind Costco.



Lesson Recap - Sept. 22, 2013

Church Leadership and Selfless Service”
by Michelle B.
Lesson 18
President Lorenzo Snow

This lesson comes from some letters Pres. Snow wrote to the branches he was supervising while presiding over the church in London. While serving there, he was informed that one of the wards was struggling. Pres. Snow decided to look into the leadership there.

Elder Snow described this leader as having “no external faults”. The man was “ambitious in promoting the cause” and had the ability to ensure “that everyone was in his place, and doing his duty”. He was diligent, “laboring in the work himself more industriously than they all”. But despite this man’s outward appearances of faithfulness, the branch consistently had problems that seemed to center on him. Elder Snow tried for some time to identify the source of the problems, and he gently rebuked the branch members for not supporting their leader. Then he began to wonder if the leader “may possess some secret, internal working spirit that he was not aware of, that did not manifest itself openly” but that led somehow to the difficulties in the branch. Elder Snow recounted:

I accordingly prayed that the Lord would give me a spirit of discernment in the case. My prayer was answered; I found the brother possessed of a kind of half-hidden, concealed spirit of self-exaltation which was directing him in many of his movements. He would send out a brother to fill an appointment but had a suppressed wish to have the honor of it himself; if the appointment was not attended to, he would chasten the delinquent, not because the work of the Lord was in any degree frustrated or that the brother lost a blessing, but because he himself was so despised in being disobeyed. In a case where a number were baptized by a brother, his heart rejoiced not so much because the persons were brought into the covenant but because it was done under his superintendency, secretly wishing no person under his charge to obtain much honor unless his own name were brought into connection.”

That was an example of a bad leader. What do you think makes a good leader? Sisters offer the following attributes:

teachable humble example
vision listener selfless
understanding follow through empowering
multiplier kind prayerful
consistent organized patient
forgiving compassionate hard working
disciplined delegator appreciative
supportive prepared integrity

One sister offered the observation that you can get anything in the world done if you don’t care who gets the credit.

Another sister offered that the most successful leader is found to be a servant-leader. Even in business, that is the most effective and the least talked about style of leading. Such a style encompasses all of the above qualities.

The ultimate sign of a good leader is having willing followers who believe in you. Who is the Ultimate Leader? Jesus Christ, who exemplifies all of the qualities named above.

In scripture, nine reasons have been identified as to why Christ is the perfect leader:

  1. Jesus was not self-promoting.
  2. Jesus was obedient to the Holy Spirit.
  3. Jesus cast a vision, with clarity, simplicity and directness.
  4. Jesus was a strategic team builder.
  5. Jesus was a relationship builder.
  6. Jesus expressed control and authority as a leader, when needed.
  7. Jesus engaged crisis head-on.
  8. Jesus practiced daily prayer (and much more).
  9. Jesus was all about empowering others.

(All of these attributes are described in Mark 1:11-45.)

I’m sure all of you know the difference between shepherds and sheepherders. Just briefly, a sheepherder is one who stands behind, nipping and pushing the flock to make it move ahead. His job is to move a mass of sheep in the direction he choses by controlling their movement. He expects to lose a few here and there.

In contrast, a shepherd leads his sheep from the front. They follow him. He knows them personally and individually and they respond to his care. He leads them into green pastures and beside the still waters. (One sister noted that sheep were led to still waters because if their wool got wet in fast-moving water, they would be pulled under by the weight of it.)
A shepherd leads, guides, trains, protects, cares for, worries about, is concerned with the flock and each member of it. He goes to great lengths to be sure the flock understands where the flock is headed. He is at the head of it as it moves. He cares for the mental and physical health of the flock, protecting it from harm, whether from within or without. He takes proactive measures to be sure the flock is not attacked by enemies set to destroy it. He provides for the flock in order to keep it healthy and productive. The shepherd expects no loss in the flock.

Christ is our example of the Leader and the Shepherd of His flock, us.

Titles do not make a leader. You do not need a title to be a leader. There is formal authority and moral authority. Formal authority is the title you bear. Moral authority is who you are. True leadership is having integrity and that is our goal.

At the end of the lesson Michelle showed a video of a young man who was president of his YM quorum. He chose to include everyone in his quorum in a triathlon contest. Even a young man who was severely disabled but had a great desire to participate. The young president hooked his disabled friend behind him and then proceeded to run, swim and bicycle both of them to the finish! Both were thrilled with the outcome. By his actions, the young president showed many qualities of a great leader.








9/10/13

Announcements - September 8, 2013

Relief Society Meeting Announcements
Sunday, September 8, 2013

  • Relief Society temple session on Tuesday, September 10 at 10:00 am session. There will also be a stake temple session on Thursday, September 12 at 7:00 pm (6:30pm chapel session)
  • The Relief Society Presidency is challenging the ward sisters to attend the temple regularly and to prepare family history names to take to the temple. The goal is to have at least one family name temple ready by January.
  • Combined Relief Society/Young Women’s Weekday Activity, “Ye Are a Temple of God” 6:30 pm on Wednesday, September 11, 2013. There will be dinner, activity, and fashion show.
  • Donate professional clothing to Wardrobe For Opportunity. Please bring to the Relief Society weekday activity or to Relief Society.
  • Ward members contact telephone numbers are needed for the emergency preparedness program, especially phone numbers that can receive text messages.  Contact Marge Bell to update you contact information.
  • Sign-up for Relief Society interviews 9/11: 4:00-6:00
  • If you are able to do alterations to clothing to make them more modest, please sign-up or contact the Relief Society Presidency.
  • If you are able to be a substitute teacher for Primary, contact Courtney Johnson.

  • General Relief Society broadcast from Salt Lake is at 5:00 pm on September 28 at the Interstake Center. Dinner served after the broadcast.

Lesson Recap - September 8, 2013

Lesson by Andrea
Teachings of the Presidents of the Church
Lorenzo Snow
Lesson 17
“Priesthood—“for the Salvation of the Human Family””

Andrea began her lesson by telling us that Priesthood power on earth exists for our salvation. And the Holy Priesthood is given to all of us—we are charged with its maintenance, though in different ways. It is held by the priests but supported by us, and in that sense our responsibility to maintain and support the priesthood is just as important as the work done by the priests themselves.

Andrea read an incident from President Lorenzo Snow’s life as told through his journal entries:

Elder Snow was ordained an Apostle on February 12, 1849. Eight months later, he was called to establish a mission in Italy. When he arrived in Italy in June 1850, he and his companions found that the people in the major cities were not ready to receive the gospel.

“But a people known as the Waldenses attracted his attention, and he felt inspired to work among them. The Waldenses had lived for centuries in the secluded Piedmont region—a mountain valley just south of the Italy-Switzerland border and east of the Italy-France border. Having formed their society because of a desire for religious reform, they were dedicated to studying the Bible and following the example of the Savior’s Apostles.
Elder Snow said that when he considered preaching the gospel among the Waldenses, “a flood of light seemed to burst upon my mind.” But despite these assurances, he felt that it was unwise to begin active missionary work immediately because enemies of the Church had distributed publications among the people, spreading lies about the Church. Elder Snow reported, “As I felt it was the mind of the Spirit that we should proceed at first, by slow and cautious steps, I submitted to the will of heaven.”
Although the missionaries did not begin preaching right away, Elder Snow oversaw the publication of pamphlets in Italian and French. In addition, he and his companions befriended the people around them. “We endeavoured to lay a foundation for future usefulness,” he said, “in silently preparing the minds of the people for the reception of the Gospel, by cultivating friendly feelings in the bosoms of those by whom we were surrounded. Yet I felt it rather singular, and no small tax upon patience, to be weeks, and months, in the midst of an interesting people, without being actively and publicly engaged in communicating the great principles which I had come to promulgate.”
The Waldenses’ feelings about the Church began to change significantly after Elder Snow administered a priesthood blessing to a boy who had become very ill. Elder Snow wrote the following in his journal:
“Sept. 6th.—This morning my attention was directed to Joseph Guy, a boy three years of age, the youngest child of our host. Many friends had been to see the child, as to all human appearance, his end was nigh at hand. I went to see him in the afternoon: death was making havoc of his body; his former healthy frame was now reduced to a skeleton, and it was only by close observation we could discern he was alive.”
Troubled by the opposition to the preaching of the gospel and concerned about little Joseph Guy, Elder Snow turned to the Lord for help that evening. He later recalled: “For some hours before I retired to rest, I called upon the Lord to assist us at this time. My feelings on this occasion will not be easily erased from memory.
“Sept. 7th.—This morning, I proposed … that we should fast, and retire to the mountains, and pray. As we departed, we called and saw the child; his eyeballs turned upwards: his eyelids fell and closed: his face and ears were thin, and wore the pale marble hue, indicative of approaching dissolution. The cold perspiration of death covered his body, and the principle of life was nearly exhausted. Madame Guy and other females were sobbing, while Monsieur Guy hung his head.” Whispering to Elder Snow and the other missionaries, Monsieur Guy said, “He dies. He dies.”
Elder Snow continued: “After a little rest upon the mountains, aside from any likelihood of interruption, we there called upon the Lord in solemn prayer, to spare the life of the child. As I contemplated the course we wished to pursue and the claims we should soon advance to the world, I regarded this circumstance as one of vast importance. I know not any sacrifice which I could possibly make, that I was not willing to offer that the Lord might grant our requests.”
When they returned to the Guy family that afternoon, Elder Snow gave Joseph a priesthood blessing. They went to see the family a few hours later, and Joseph’s father, “with a smile of thankfulness,” told them the boy was much better.
“Sept. 8.—The child had been so well, the parents were enabled to betake themselves to rest, which they had not done for some time previous. To-day, they were enabled to leave him, and attend to their business.” When Joseph’s mother expressed her joy at the boy’s recovery, Elder Snow responded, “The God of heaven has done this for you.”
“From that hour he began to amend,” recounted Elder Snow, “and with a heart filled with gratitude to our heavenly Father, I am happy to say, that in a few days he left his bed, and joined his little companions.”
Andrea reiterated what President Snow said, “The God of heaven has done this for you.” This says it all for us today. The Priesthood is from the God of heaven. The Priesthood holders in our life have a tremendous responsibility to be the instruments of our Father in Heaven.
Andrea reached out to some of the men in our ward and asked them the following questions:
1-What does the Priesthood mean to you?
2-Was there a time in your life when you did not live the gospel as well as you might like and , if so, what was the effect in your life?
3-How can your family members, especially your wife, help support you in your priesthood responsibilities?
Some of the responses follow:
Question 1: “From my perspective, the priesthood has given me the opportunity to do many tings that I never dreamt I could do. . .I have seen the difference the priesthood has made in my life, however, the dramatic positive results that have happened in my life when I lived the commitments I had made.”
“To me, priesthood means stewardship and responsibility. It means there is an expectation upon me for my behavior and everything that I think, say, and do. It is an honor and not a burden, but definitely reminds me to represent Jesus Christ as a priesthood holder should do.”
“I often feel that my wife is more closely connected with God, our kids and people generally. She has this natural tendency toward compassion and love that take a lot of work, thought and effort for me to achieve. She has this ability to hone in on people’s needs and help them meet it…she does it with grace, skill and caring. Me, however, not so much grace, skill or caring. . . I suppose that one aspect of the priesthood is that it provides a duty that spurs me into the same actions that my wife takes naturally. As a result of taking those actions or service and acting in the stead of God, I can receive the same blessings, benefits and feelings that my wife achieves. As those duties are fulfilled, they move from duties to desires for righteousness because of positive feedback I receive. On the other hand, as I slip back into “natural man” the duties (and guilt) spur me back to action, providing a net positive balance.”
Question 2: “When I was in my undergrad at Weber State, I worked at Mackay Dee hospital in Ogden. I worked in the clinical lab…most of them were members of the Church and Elders. Many of the departments in the hospital knew of the high concentration of Elders in the lab and the flexibility our boss would give us (he was also an Elder) to administer blessings to patients in the hospital. Because of this reputation, we would frequently get calls from the floors to go give blessings.
This was a really interesting experience for me in many ways: 1) the faithfulness of so many people to call upon the Priesthood (from complete strangers) to petition our Heavenly Father on their behalf, 2) the blessing it was for me to be a conduit to exercise the Priesthood, and 3) how it made me consider my personal, daily behavior. There was an occasion where the lab received a call for Elders to give a blessing. On that particular day I was off. I don’t recall exactly what happened, but I know I didn’t feel comfortable exercising the Priesthood. I told my co-workers I couldn’t go so a couple of other guys went up on the floor to administer the blessing. It left me pondering the importance of the Priesthood, the trust our Heavenly Father bestowed upon imperfect mortals and the blessing it was for me to be contemplative about my personal behavior. There are little things that can drive the Spirit away from us…I realized it is important that I be cognizant of the variables in my life that affect the ability for the Spirit to be with me. As with exercising the Priesthood, you never know when you will need the direction of the Spirit; it can happen at any time.”
Question 3: “My wife supports me in my priesthood responsibility by being a full partner in helping me fulfill my priesthood duties. I think the wife of a priesthood holder should proactively share the responsibility of the priesthood by not waiting for her husband to take the lead if there is an opportunity for her to take the lead…I may be the priesthood holder, but she has every right to exercise her responsibility when I am not there or not doing it myself.”
“…Men in the Church are simultaneously told to treat their wife with great care, deference and kindliness. He is also told to “preside over his family”. Yet he is told that he is an “equal partner” with his wife in executing his responsibilities with his wife. All of this is VERY confusing. . .the vast majority of men that chose to go to church every Sunday, pay a full tithe, honor his marital vows and provide for his family has self-selected into a very compliant, humble, mature, God-fearing group. . .the vast majority of men receiving the simultaneous messages of presiding and being solicitous are very good men that desire to do the right thing.”
Andrea used a level as an example to show the Relief Society sisters that as keeping the bubble in the middle of the level is hard, so it is for Priesthood holders to maintain balance in the right place to be able to exercise their Priesthood power. We, as sisters, are able to influence the Priesthood holders so they are in balance instead of judgement.
Andrea closed her lesson by praying that each one of us will be a leveling force in the lives of our Priesthood members-that we may each help them receive the full blessings of the Priesthood, so that they may exercise it for our salvation, theirs, and the salvation of our families and community.





















Visiting Teaching
Lesson by
Nancy Clark

I am hoping that this will be very much a group effort, that we will learn from each other. I have a few thoughts which I will share with you and then I’ll turn it open to you for your thoughts on this rich and wonderful subject of visiting teaching.
I’d like to begin rather than conclude with my testimony of visiting teaching. I love visiting teaching. I love the opportunity it gives me to extend myself to my visiting teachees. I love my visiting teacher. I love all the other women she visits. For me it is just a great blessing. A blessing to be able to reach out to other sisters and have the opportunity to develop friendships with other sisters. For me, it’s one of the great things about the church. How unfortunate it would be if the brethren could be home teachers but we did not have the opportunity to be engaged in that kind of relationship. I do feel that it is one of the true principles upon which the church is built. What principle do we see functioning in visiting teaching?

CHARITY, the pure love of Christ. Both as He loves us and as we love Him. Don’t we aspire to love our brothers and sisters as He loves us?
That’s really what it’s all about isn’t it. To love as He loves and as we do, we become more like Him. We acquire, we develop divine attributes that are already within us as His daughters. As we feel and project that kind of love, we become more like Him. And that is the whole point of the gospel, “be ye therefore perfect, even as your Father in Heaven is perfect.” How do we do that? By following His Son, our Savior, who is the example of how to live.

What are some of the messages He taught us in the scriptures? Actually I think it is a cause and effect, I think it is a scientific relationship. As we do His work we become more like Him. Don’t you see that throughout the world as people follow an example of one sort or another? People are searching for mentors and Christ is that for us.

What is another message we find in the scriptures?

One sister offered that we have covenanted to bear one another’s burdens. Sometimes we can help others bear burdens we have borne.
This truly is a function of visiting teaching also. We should always pray for those we visit teach.

Nancy shared her mother’s mantra “who needs me?”. At first Nancy thought of it in a negative way, but then realized her mother was asking the Lord who she could help that day.

We are surrounded by those who are in need of our attention, our encouragement, our support, our comfort and our kindness. We are the Lord’s hands here upon the earth with the mandate to serve and to lift His children. He is dependent upon each of us.”
Thomas S. Monson

God does know us. He watches over us, but it is usually though another person He meets our needs. Therefore, it is vital that we serve each other in the kingdom.”
Spencer Kimball

That’s quite a responsibility isn’t it. But, if we are in tune with the Spirit, we will know who needs us.

One sister offered that as you serve someone, you really do come to love her. It may seem at first that you have nothing in common, but as you serve that sister, your bond grows into real caring and love.

Another sister offered that when she gets past any fear or completely forgets herself in her visits, she can more easily and effectively serve those she visits.

Relief Society was established back in the Nauvoo days. Emma Smith set the pattern. Visiting teaching used to involve collecting supplies in a basket from one who had extra and giving those items to those without enough. This continued up through WWII.

Visiting teaching is not just a monthly visit. It is ministering. That is a word we don’t hear all that often. We connect that word with ministering angels. Do we see ourselves in that light? We are asked to watch over and strengthen our sisters in their individual needs. They might be spiritual needs, temporal needs, social needs, whatever may be needed. We are to minister to our sisters by visits, phone calls, emails or other means.

In order to build a relationship, one might ask questions of the sister you teach. i.e. What worries or concerns do you have? Do you have any questions about the gospel? In what ways can we be of help to you?

Less helpful is to say, “Call us if you need anything.”

Here are some things that teachers can do to watch over, love and strengthen their sisters:

Pray daily for her and her family.
Seek inspiration to know her and her family.
Visit her regularly.
Comfort and strengthen her.
Keep in regular contact with visits, email, text messages etc.
Greet her at church meetings.
Help her when she has an emergency or illness.
Teach her the gospel from the scriptures and the v.t. messages.
Inspire her by a good example.
Report your visits once a month.
Report urgent concerns immediately.

One sister offered her testimony that visiting teaching is surely an inspired program. She really thinks it is Christ’s way of keeping track of all His sheep, knowing that each is loved and He is building His community of Saints and they are keeping track of each other. When she talks about the church to other people, visiting teaching is one of the things she talks about because it is divinely inspired and has created for her so many wonderful experiences.

Finally, Nancy admonished each of us to be sure to report our visits on the ReturnAndReport.org website or to your district supervisor. We are a record-keeping people. Your visiting teaching is never done until it is reported, and then there is another month just ahead….